I want to make it clear that I am not blaming women in that post. I received an e-mail accusing me of that. (Why don't more people just question me here?) I am not blaming women, but I am saying that women need to look at their role in these types of situations.
I am, however, blaming men. When your actions become abusive, it's your fault. Flat out. If it's self-defense, that's different (and I know that happens more often than reported). But if you start this cycle of stalk, mentally abuse, physically abuse -- it's your fault. You are reacting badly to a situation.
I've said my piece. Comment away.